Anderson Lol. Should they be less inward looking?
Ashley Perhaps. It is a debatable topic.
Anderson Like every other thing
Ashley Like abortion and marriage. Haha
Anderson Im still mad that you think that I would only have that view on marriage to be different
I mean if someone wants to get married go for it. Thats their thing. I just think in todays society its better not to. I think the commitment adds to the stress thats already put on the relationship
Ashley Well you don't really have anything to back it up.. Haha. And I see where you're coming from I just think it's silly because when you're so in love with a person that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, you will hardly be thinking of your stress level. Every relationship is going to be under a strain at some point and no relationship is perfect
Anderson Yeah. I mean were never going to agree. haha. Its just I myself dont ever plan on getting married
Ashley Well I mean I get that. But your opinion could still change (:
Anderson Its weird because were such opposites but then were not? haha
Ashley Like honestly the main thing I look forward to in life is marriage
Anderson Thats where were different. I look forward to finding the one
Ashley and babies. And that's pretty much all I care about accomplishing Why would you ever marry anyone who wasn't the one?
Anderson Why any other person does. Theyre tired of looking. You get old. You dont have time anymore. Its time to settle down. You settle for less. I think thats quit common actually. I think most people settle for what they can find. How do you know the one isnt in Paris or Denver if you're stuck in Indiana only looking in Indiana. And because theyre not looking they settle for someone their to. Because theyre running out of time and its convenient
Sorry to burst your bubble but most marriages fail because their was never anything their to begin with. You can only convince yourself for so long
Ashley Well that's not what I meant. I refuse to settle. If I was open to settling I would have been in more relationships by now. And they would all suck. But that isn't the case. When I say I look forward to marriage most, I mean I look forward to finding that person the most because that is what marriage is to me.
Anderson But what of that doesnt happen until you're 40? Would you wait?
Ashley And I really don't want to get into religion, but I feel like God would bring me to that person no matter what. And I think that marriage is so important to me that he wouldn't force me to be single at 40 either. I realize that is entirely wishful thinking, but what good does pessimism bring you? Even though I am secretly a pessimist. I think about that all the time "What if I don't find someone?" It scares the crap out of me. But you never know until it happens/doesn't happen But I do know for a FACT that even if I wasn't married at 40, I would never marry someone who wasn't the perfect person for me
Do you see at all where I'm coming from though? At least tell me you believe in true love.
Anderson Yeah. But I dont have God on my side. I dont want someone nagging me to get married to get married. And do it for that. Id rather just never get married and not have that pressure or hurry Of course. I just think its hard to come by
And then it goes on to other stuff. haha. My monday nights consist of this. I need a life
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